Single Parenting...Dad Style

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Lots of guys love to take on challenges. Still, the hurdles you'll face as a single father can make even the most determined man think twice. That's why we've written this post. In these words, you'll find ways to master what comes your way while keeping your sanity intact. So, without further ado, let us begin.

Know What You're Dealing With

Taking on any task starts with sizing it up. So let's look at some typical issues confronting single dads, according to Good Men Project:

1. Facing society's stigma. This problem can come at you from two directions: one, the stereotype of parenting as a "woman thing" that no self-respecting man would devote the bulk of his time to. The other misperception, which is just as wrong-headed, is that a single dad must have done something horrible to drive the mother away, making him unfit to be around kids.
2. Staying on good terms with your ex. This can pose dilemmas whether or not the mom is active in your kid's life. If she is, then you'll need to stay on good terms with her as much as possible, both for your child's sake as well as your own. If she's not, then you will have to explain her absence to your kid. Neither task is easy.
3. Balancing life and work. Good parents provide for their family. But good parents also take time for their kids. Walking the fine line between those two often conflicting priorities can make even the most serene guy a bit stressed.
4. Living life. How to you manage to do the above four while watching out for your own needs? Is it even possible?

Now let's look at ways to deal with these issues.

Refusing to Let Others Define You

Both male and female single parents face their share of prejudice, as pointed out by HuffPost. We've already discussed two of the stigmas you'll face, but the list could go on forever. The question for you is not whether you'll face criticism but how you will deal with it. It all comes down to asking who defines you: others or yourself? It should always be the latter.

Practicing Diplomacy

Hopefully, you and your kid's mom are on good terms; this is often the case. If not, then you may need to learn a few diplomacy skills. Your child will form many of her perceptions of women based on how you act towards the mother. Remember this fact as you work with her to bring up your child.

Finding What Balance You Can

Any working parent, single or not, must balance economic reality with child rearing duties. You may be able to work out a flex-time arrangement with your boss, transition to a home-based position, or ask trusted friends and family member for help shouldering the load.

Staying Sane

According to Drugrehab.org, “The way we eat, drink, love, and cope with stress, depression, anxiety, and sadness all play a big role in the state our mental health is in. Sometimes, it’s necessary to take a step back and ask yourself if you’re doing the right thing for you, and not the easiest thing.” This applies to single parenting as well as other aspects of your life. You must care for yourself in order to care for your child. If this becomes difficult, then you may need to reach out to supportive friends or even a qualified professional.

Being a single dad is all about doing the best you can. You will make mistakes; everyone does. But, by admitting your errors and learning from them, you pave the way to a brighter future for everyone in your family, including yourself.